Mindset Is Everything | Health & Wellbeing

Health. It’s a bit of an ambiguous word, isn’t it… I mean, what is it to be truly ‘healthy’? For the past few years I have been more curious than ever to understand what it means to not only look, but to feel your best.

At the age of 23, I don’t feel like my body is as healthy as it could be – and when I say this, I don’t mean it doesn’t look the way I want it to (albeit that is true also…) I mean I believe my body is not that of a ‘fit’ and ‘healthy’ 23 year old.

I am overweight. There, I said it. (That sort of felt like I was standing up at an AA meeting bearing my soul and admitting my problem – I guess that’s the first step…). Now I may not be drastically overweight but I am heavier than I should be and while I don’t like the thought of being overweight for aesthetic reasons, it really worries me for my health. I always say to my boyfriend “we’re in our twenties, we should be at our absolute fittest!”

Something I’ve noticed in the last few years is pain in my joints and my lack of mobility. I was a dancer for the best part of probably 8 years or so, which meant I was pretty fit and supple. I could (and would) dance for 12 hours some days with no trouble and now I find if I stand for too long in a day I’m met with the most awful back and knee pain - just from standing or walking around the shops! I genuinely find myself not really wanting to do too much on a day out, as I know the pain which is due to ensue as a result – at the age of 23, this is not ok.

Healthy Body, Healthy Mind, Healthy Life

Being overweight seriously knocks confidence, and as someone who is quite anxious I find it really doesn’t help alleviate the anxiety symptoms. You want to walk around feeling confident in your skin and proud of yourself. It could be something as simple as not dressing in the clothes you really want to because you feel like you’re not worthy of them. It hinders you being your true self, as you censor the way you dress just to try and hide your insecurities - at the age of 23, this is not ok.

Did you know a link has been found between anxiety levels and joint pain? So while being overweight can trigger joint pain due to obvious reasons (your body is bearing more weight than it should be and therefore straining your joints), the anxiety felt due to insecurities of looking overweight can actually exasperate and fuel this pain. The weight paired with the pain makes you feel down and disappointed, and if you’re anything like me, you probably turn to food as a comfort. Hello vicious cycle. 

In the last month or so I have started listening to some podcasts by the amazing Tony Robbins, as he promotes the concept of living a fulfilled and happy life, and I recently listened to one all about our basic human needs. Tony argues we have 6 basic human needs and people meet their needs by engaging in behaviour to meet their short term goals (a quick fix if you will). Sadly these short term solutions are not sustainable, which is why they remain a persistent problem. You can meet these needs by engaging in empowering, neutral or disempowering behaviours, “and anytime our mind perceives that doing something; believing something or feeling something meets at least 3 of these needs we become addicted to it”. 

Food meets at least 3 of these basic human needs. 
·         Certainty – need for comfort and wellbeing
·         Uncertainty – need for surprise and variety (change)
·         Significance – need to feel special and have worth

Personally, I use food as a crutch. I have done for years. Growing up in quite a dysfunctional environment, I used food as a way to comfort myself. After all, eating yummy food makes you feel good. I would snack binge on my favourite treats and in that moment it would make me feel better. But the trouble with binging is that is a maladaptive and addictive behaviour. We become obsessed with the endorphin-fuelled high from our tingly taste buds, and then we become overwhelmed by the guilt of the binge and seek comfort and justification for our behaviour. “I’ve had a bad day”, “I’m PMSing”, “I’m celebrating” – whatever the excuse, that’s exactly what it is... an excuse. I don’t want to be living my life engaging in behaviour which clearly isn’t making me happy, just to produce excuse after excuse to justify it.  “People will give up their goals and dreams to meet their needs” - at any age, this is not ok.

(You can read more about the 6 Basic Human Needs here

Making sense of why I engage in the behaviour I do is key to understanding why this has become a reoccurring problem. If you've been following me for a while you will know I did manage to lose quite a lot of weight last year, but the realities of going from; being a student and having all the time in the world to go to the gym and focus on my meals, to undertaking a full time job has seen me take a huge step backwards. Although, I do feel like this time around I'm more focused on finding a sustainable solution... I want to commit to being healthy - with the weight loss being an added bonus.  

We all know to achieve anything you must commit to actively engaging in behaviour to push you towards that goal. However, a key factor which negatively impacts this is working towards that goal with behaviours which have a time stamp… “I’ve been eating healthy and exercising for 3 weeks now”, “I haven’t touched a carb in 2 years!”, “I went to the gym 4 times this week”. This persistent countdown encourages your brain to look towards the moment of breaking the pattern - Why limit yourself to ‘X’ amount of time?  “I’ve been eating healthy and exercising for 3 weeks now” “I eat well and exercise”.

I want to consciously alter my mindset to make sure I'm not working with a countdown clock; I want to fall in love with feeling healthy and having a body which can serve its purpose, I want to radiate energy, and most importantly I want to feel my best every single day. 

Can anyone relate? 


  1. Great post! There's so much out there about health and wellness right now, and I love how you put it - too much is focused on '30 days' or different time frames, but to be sustainable, it has to be a true mindset change not about the countdown clock! Lovely writing, thanks for posting!

    1. Hi Sasha, (firstly - thank you so much for taking the time to comment on my post!x). I'm glad you can see where this perspective is coming from! I thinks thats where I was falling short, as everything had a predetermined time limit! I'm sure it will take some work to alter that mind set, but as you say, hopefully that will bring about sustainable changes! x


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